Compatibility/Family
Siblings
Siblings share a childhood and often turn out strikingly different anyway. Here is how two types tend to fare as siblings, growing up and later on, when the decisions you share are about family.
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What we look at as siblings
Four areas, each read from one scale, then how you handle pressure. How the gauge works
Decisions T/F
Fights and making up
How you argue, and how you repair it afterward.
Each point between your scores costs 1.5 points
Energy E/I
Space and attention
Sharing rooms, friends and the family spotlight.
Each point between your scores costs 1 point
Perception N/S
Shared world
The games, interests and jokes you have in common.
Each point between your scores costs 1 point
Structure J/P
Family logistics
Chores as children; holidays and caring for parents as adults.
Each point between your scores costs 0.5 points
Composure
Family stress
How you handle pressure together, from both Composure scores.
Shown separately, not part of the fit
What the research says
Children who grow up in the same home are often surprisingly different, because the experiences that shape personality are mostly ones siblings do not share (Plomin and Daniels, 1987). Birth order, a favorite explanation, shows little or no effect on personality traits in large samples (Rohrer et al., 2015). Being different is normal for siblings; how you treat each other is the part you choose.
- Plomin, R., and Daniels, D. (1987). Why are children in the same family so different from one another? Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 10(1), 1-16.
- Rohrer, J. M., Egloff, B., and Schmukle, S. C. (2015). Examining the effects of birth order on personality. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 112(46), 14224-14229.
Other settings
Every setting reads the same five scores through the areas that matter there.
Love and friendship
Partners
Dating, living together or married: how two styles share a life.
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Love and friendship
Friends
What you do together, what you talk about and how you show up.
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Family
Parent and child
What a child needs, what a parent naturally gives, and where they meet.
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Work
Colleagues
Sharing projects, meetings and deadlines as peers.
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Work
Manager and team member
Direction, check-ins, feedback and room to work.
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